Sunday, March 21, 2010

Alices birthday party

Our friend Alice turned 2 a week before M & J's birthday. We went up
to her house last weekend during the monsoon that lead to loads of
flooding around here.

A small dance started in the kitchen but all the other kids quickly joined in.


For an activity for the kids Melanie got plain cupcakes and frosting and toppings so the kids could decorate their own cupcakes. It was a huge mess but totally worth it. The kids loved it!

Photos

I got new glasses a few weeks ago since Jackson decided to head-butt me out of the blue and break my old ones. Not one person has even noticed not even my husband. I guess that's a good thing because it means I didn't get new ones that draw attention.
I popped the lenses out of the old ones so the kids could play with them. How handsome does he look??

Photos

I posted these on FB but I figured other people would get a kick out
of them too. Unfortunately they were both taken in 91 so I can't
even blame the hair on the 80's.


The first one was taken at a jazz festival in Orlando on a band
trip. I'm the one holding hands with the girl on the bottom.


The second one was a semi formal my senior year. I'm second in from the right. I'm still in touch with all these girls :-)


36 Months



Dear Madison and Jackson,

I told you both the day you were born that you weren't allowed to grow up. I think I knew that the baby days were going to be relatively easy compared to later on. I was definitely right. You both get harder and harder to deal with on a daily basis. Gone are the days of reasoning with you. We really had a great run of explaining things then asking you if you understood. If you said yes we knew you got it and your tantrum would stop. Or if we said "if you don't stop whining you're going to get a time out" you would immediately stop whining. Now you just yell "NO!" or "Don't WANT to".
The conversations you have are so funny. You do this thing where Maddie will ask Jackson if a shoe is a pen. Jackson will reply, "nooooo". Then she'll ask if it's a car and he'll reply, "nooooo".
That goes on and on. You have your fair share of fighting and arguing but when you play nicely together it is the cutest thing I've ever seen.

Dear Jackson,


Your behavior can be a little scary to me at times. In the last few days you've had moments that you seem like a different kid. You are so defiant and won't look at us when we need to talk to you seriously. I'm sure this is just normal 3 year old behavior and will pass but sometimes I wonder if it's leading to something more. Then comes the question of how to handle it. Time outs do absolutely nothing for you. I always reward your good behavior but at this point nothing we're doing is keeping you from taunting your sister, or calling us by our first name, or telling us to "stop it", or throwing things you're not supposed to, or flailing around when we take you away from something you shouldn't be doing. The majority of the time you are a sweet, cuddly, hysterical, happy boy but the times you're not are just exhausting for us.

Our driveway has a very slight incline to it and up until last week you weren't able to pedal your tricycle up. You would get stuck and whine for us to push you. Last week you finally figured it out. You pedal all around now and don't need any help. You love to ride and it's so fun to see you so happy.

Some of your funny phrases are "I doing it!" and "Is dis goes?". You'll do a shape sorter in front of me putting the square in the circle and say, "Is dis goes?". I'll say, "noooo". Then you'll put it in the triangle and say "Is dis goes?". You love to kid around and make me laugh.

You've started making this shy/embarrassed facial expression. You mostly do it when we first see someone but you'll also do it if you realize we hear you singing or something.

You've been singing the ABC song along with Madison for a little while now but since you're always together I never heard you do it by yourself. When I took you to the doctor alone the other day Dr. C asked you if you knew your ABCs and you immediately sang the entire song to her. I was shocked that you knew it all and that you sang in front of her. You count to 10 very well on your own although prefer to abbreviate it by saying "1, 2, 7, 8, 9, 10".

I think you finally know your colors. When you're not bouncing around, throwing things, or jumping off of things, you are very happy to sit with me. I absolutely love these times. You let me wrap my arms around you and I squeeze you and kiss you. I wouldn't trade you for the world!




Dear Madison,


For some strange reason you've started waving your hand at me like a dog does when they want you to pet them. You will paw at me when you want something. It's almost like you're trying so hard to control yourself from whining that you do that to get my attention instead. Like your brother, you have also stopped taking no for an answer. It's so hard to know how to deal with it. I know giving in is just rewarding the behavior and the next time you're going to know that if you just scream loud enough or long enough I'll give in but most of the time it is just SO much easier to give in. Since I'm with you 24/7 I just don't have the energy to stand my ground every single time. I hope this phase passes quickly and I'm not creating a monster.

The balance bike I got you last summer is your favorite thing to do outside. The first few times we took you outside to ride it you were able to push along fine but the seat was a little too low so you would end up pushing yourself up and off the seat when your feet hit the ground. Daddy raised it up for you the other day and by the next day you were gliding a good twenty feet with your feet off the ground. The day after that you were gliding that far and around a corner. You look like you've been doing it all your life. I'm really amazed at how well it has taught you to balance.

You have this funny way of saying things like if I say "Let's go outside now." you'll say, "but my shoes are in my room.". Or if I say "Mommy's making dinner." you'll say "but Jackson's in the living room." It usually doesn't make much sense what you say and it's so funny because you're so sincere when you say it.

Lately you've been ignoring Daddy when he comes home from work. You won't say hi or kiss him or even look at him. It makes him very sad.

You are still very bossy with Jackson. "You stop that right now, Jackson. That's not nice. Do you understand?"

You try to count from 10 to 20 but you say the teen numbers out of order.

You've started this funny nuzzling thing with me. You'll basically rub your face in my chest and I cuddle you. It's so sweet!! You are such a cute little peanut and I love you more than you'll ever know.


Monday, March 15, 2010

I'm so annoyed!!

So, we've been having a tough time with Jackson Lately, well, both of
them really but Jackson has been particularly disagreeable. This
doesn't have a lot to do with my story except to say that I'm not one
of those mothers that thinks their child can do no wrong.
We go to the mall play area a lot. It's new, clean, fun, comfy for
parents. Most of the time I can't get them to leave. It's usually
really crowded and the kids always find someone else to play with/run
around with whether it's a crawling baby or a 6 year old. Jackson
admittedly likes to play rough. It doesn't matter how old they are
nor their gender. I ALWAYS make sure the other child is ok with it
and the parents. We've never had an issue.
Today was a weird day though. There was a 5 year old girl that
Jackson was following around (it hadn't gotten physical yet) and she
wanted nothing to do with him. She kept crying and running away from
him which only made him chase her more. I kept trying to get him to
stop (this is where his behavior issues come into play) but he would
just go limp and scream "NO!" whenever I tried to pull him away. He
kept going back to her. I don't know what it was about her. I was
conversing with her grandmother and she was cool with it all, just
said that the girl was really shy. While we were talking I see him
chasing her again and this time he grabbed her by the waist and
tackled her to the ground. I ran over and got him off of her but he
was like a wild animal just not paying attention to me.
Probably 15 minutes later a man comes up to me from outside the play
area (it's a half wall around the whole area so anyone from in the
mall can come right up to you). I turned to look and it was a man
who had just been there with his daughters (different girls than the
one I just talked about). I smiled and said hello, waiting to hear
what he was going to say. I never dreamed it was going to be
anything negative so it took me forever for his words to sink in. He
said "I don't appreciate being called on the phone and being told
that your son was strangling my daughter." My jaw hit the floor. My
mother was with me and we were just stunned. Apparently he was there
with his daughters and his mother. Since his mother was there with
the girls he must have gone shopping or something. So while he was
gone his mother saw Jackson strangling her granddaughter and called
the father on his cell phone. Then he said "you should pay more
attention". I didn't know whether to cry or jump over the wall and
strangle HIM. I'm not saying that Jackson didn't try to play
physically with one of the girls, he probably did but it was out of
my view and I'm certain he wasn't strangling her. Obviously I missed
something but it's physically impossible to look at your child every
second you're there especially when you have TWO! And why was this
the first I was hearing of it? If a kid was strangling one of mine
and the parent wasn't paying attention I would have said something
right then and there! He was speaking to me as if I condone
strangling. Obviously if I had seen it happen I would have freaked
out on Jackson. I never even saw him interact with those girls the
whole time they were there. I'm sure he's at home telling everyone
he knows how some boy tried to strangle his daughter. Great.
I've seen this family there before too so hopefully we don't run into
them again.