What's been really difficult for ME now is that I find it is effecting my feelings for her. Just putting that in writing is gut wrenching for me. I NEVER imagined that anything would do that. I love her to pieces but there are days (like the last 7 or so) that I can't even think of spending the day with her. The thought of all the mental effort it will take to get through the day is overwhelming. All last weekend she spent at my parents' house because we were helping Chris's brother paint their new house. Jackson stayed with us and even though he was a handful it was better than having both of them there. So even after her being gone for 3 days, on Monday by 10am I was almost in tears over her tantrums. My mom came and got her again so I could have a fight free day. Tuesday we were out all day with my mom at an amusement park so things were actually fine. Today was a nightmare. My sister in law ended up taking both of them from 3-6 for me so I could have some peace. When I went to get them at 6 they were immediately a nightmare for me. Maddie was having a total meltdown because Jackson had something she wanted and just wailed for a really long time. By the time I got home I was ready to snap. I brought them in the house then went back out alone to pick up dinner. I called my mom to vent and ended up crying. I just feel like things are so out of control and I just don't know how to fix it. She said she'd take her again tomorrow for me since I'm watching my niece and nephew again. I'm leaving Friday morning for Chicago until Sunday so I won't even see her until then.
She's having accidents left and right which is driving me nuts too. I try so hard to not get angry about it but it's so hard when she's RIGHT next to the toilet and pees on the floor instead. She was doing so well for so long and now the last week has just been horrible for it. She has accidents at my parents' house too so that's not just me.
Then I worry that all of the passing her off I've been doing is effecting her behavior too.
Obviously she's going through something and I'm sure it's all natural and normal but it's seriously making me lose my mind.
Now Jackson is a different story. While he's not quite as challenging as she is I'm having my issues with him too. For him he's just really clingy to me and when I need to do something that doesn't involve him that's when the tantrum starts. I can't make a phone call, I can't cook, I can't be on the computer. He will literally hang on my leg. Again with him I do not condone this behavior. I give him timeouts, I speak to him about it being inappropriate, I don't give in to him. He just doesn't seem to be learning either.
I'm just petrified of our relationships being strained because of my frustration. I always wonder at what point do kid/parent relationships go from being loving/affectionate to being distant. I'm terrified this is the point.
I REALLLLLLLYYYYYY need this weekend away but first of all it's not nearly long enough and secondly I know I'm just going to be coming home to the same issues I left.
The other difficult thing is that Chris doesn't understand why it's bothering me so much. He sees the bad behavior for a couple hours at night and on the weekend so he doesn't think it should make me this upset. He agrees that they shouldn't act this way but he doesn't understand why it gets to me so much.
UGH, I know all of this is normal but it doesn't make it any easier.